Interviews aren’t only a test of whether you’re “good enough.” They’re also your chance to check whether a role will actually fit your working style, growth needs, and boundaries – so you don’t end up in a job that looks great on paper but feels wrong in real life.
1) Pick your top 2 priorities
Before any interview, decide what you’re optimizing for in the next 6–12 months:
Growth (fast learning, frequent feedback)
Stability (clear scope, predictable pace)
Autonomy (ownership, trust)
Support (mentorship, strong onboarding)
If you don’t choose priorities, you’ll get pulled by surface-level things (title, brand, hype).
2) Turn priorities into proof questions
Ask questions that reveal how work actually happens:
“What does success look like in the first 30/60/90 days?”
“How do you give feedback – how often, and in what format?”
“How often do priorities change, and what usually causes it?”
“What decisions will this role own without approval?”
3) Ask for recent examples (not slogans)
When you hear “fast-paced,” “high ownership,” or “collaborative,” ask for a real story:
“Can you share a recent example from the last month?”
“What happened the last time a deadline slipped?”
“Tell me about the last person who joined this role—what was hard at first?”
Stories are harder to fake than values statements.
4) Evaluate the manager + role clarity
Right after each interview, rate these 1–5:
Role clarity: Do I understand the weekly work and priorities?
Manager fit: Do I trust how they lead and communicate?
Success metrics: Do I know how “good performance” is measured?
Your direct manager often matters more than the company brand.
5) Decide based on trade-offs (not perfection)
No team is perfect. The goal is a clear trade-off you can live with.
If something feels unclear, ask a calm follow-up:
“Help me understand how this works in practice day-to-day.”
Remember: getting an offer is great, but getting the right offer is better. Interviews are your chance to protect your time, energy, and growth – so choose a team where you can do your best work.

